It may feel like you lost something. It may feel like there is no one else to replace this love. However, these are only temporary feelings. The true reality is that there is only abundance. And you get to pick if you want to get an abundance of lack or an abundance of fulfilment.
The fact is there are infinite people and soulmates who would gladly play out the fulfillment of your desires.
You might even question: Am I worthy of love?
For example, imagine yourself walking in an apple orchard. Trees are full of apples as far as you can see. There are way more apples than you could ever carry. Some have fallen on the ground. Some are still on trees. There are plenty of “low-hanging fruits” you can comfortably access. And a lot more are up high in the tree, that you would need to climb to access. There is an infinite variety of choices: sweet, sour, juicy, dry, crispy, meaty, ripe, unripe, over-ripe, in any color and size, etc. And as you walk down this orchard. You get to pick any and as many apples as you like. Everything here is yours. So you don’t even think to ask – can I have an apple? Am I worthy of apples? And if you did, then the answer would be resounding “Of course!”
Questions on your mind are probably along the lines of: what do I want? Do I want an apple? How many? What kinds? What kind of experience do I want to have? What do I want to do with all these apples? Do I want to eat them? Do I want to cook with them?
You decide that you want to find and eat this one perfect apple. You list out all the qualities of an apple you want to have, so that once you find it, you are able to recognize it. You go along looking for “the one”. And soon enough, you find it. You immediately recognize it. You are overjoyed to have the luck to find exactly what you wanted. And it even seems to stand out with this divine light falling on this one very beautiful apple. And as you pick it, you notice that it’s not as perfect as you initially thought. There are some dents. And even a hole – looks like a bird has sampled it before you. But you are still excited, because it matches all your other wishes. It took some time to find this apple, and then there was this divine light – it must be meant for you! So you forgive imperfection,s and it becomes even more precious. And as you are about to taste it, it suddenly slips out of your hand and rolls away, out of your sight.
What to do now? You still want your perfect apple. You try to find it, but no luck. You could just pick another one, since there is an abundance of apples just like you want. But let’s say you formed a special bond with this one apple you just held. And you really want to find it. You try to look for it harder, but still no luck.
What if you never find it again? How much time would you spend searching for this one? At some point, you might need to decide: what is more important – preference to have this one specific apple or fulfilling your desire for your perfect apple from the infinity of choices already available.
There is no right or wrong here. Just different experiences. Since you can’t control what happened to the apple you lost, you can’t control with certainty your ability to ever find this particular apple. You can only play with probabilities. As far as you know, some other animal might have happily eaten it by now.
Consider this. What if this preferred apple is gone for good? Would it be worth spending the rest of your life looking for it and sacrificing all else? Or would you soon let go and focus on finding your next perfect apple? Would you grieve about one lost apple, or would you focus on fulfilling your desires?
Again, there is no judgment, no right or wrong here. Just honest consideration – what do you want? Listen to your heart – it already knows.
Personally, I prefer the path of focusing on fulfilment of desire through non-attachment to any specific outcome. If it’s gone, great! If it’s here, great! No attachment to outcome, because in either case, I get to fulfill my desire.
However, if I focus on attachment to a specific outcome, it is possible that I get neither the attachment, nor the fulfilment – because focus is on abundance of lack, not abundance of fulfilment.
Now imagine, instead of apples, you walk among people, and every single person is your soulmate. Yes, every single one. And all you would need to do is reach out and pick one. Or many, if that is what you prefer. Simple and easy.
Exactly like with apples – an abundance of ideal options and all for you. And exactly like with apples, the most compelling questions are along the lines of: what do you want?
And same as with the apple, if you lose one, so what? There are infinite options that lead to fulfillment. This is how to see break-ups as not that big of a deal. It’s like losing one apple. So what? There’s nothing wrong with losing an apple. Yet, focus on loss, and you will experience more loss. Focus on what you want, and you will get what your heart wants!
Ask your heart: what do you want?
Take away: Your heart knows, there is abundance of love for you and an abundance of soul-mates.
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